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Ok, so I have problems with my best guy friend. In the summer, he told me he liked me more than a friend, but he said it like online when I was texting him. So, I didn't really know if he really meant it. I did tell him I liked him too, and then about a day later he says he doesn't like me. I don't know if that was just him denying it or him being serious.. later on we went bowling with a bunch of friends and he hugged me, but since then he hasn't been talking to me and has been acting awkward??

Sat, 06 Oct 2012 11:54:32 -0400

# 28

It seems like he is playing games with you. Either that, or he isn’t sure of his feelings about you yet. When a guy likes you, he WANTS to talk to you and be around you. So if he is ignoring you or isnt talking to you anymore, that could be a big sign that he doesn’t feel the same way. But neither of us here are psychic. Talk to him and ask him how he feels about you.

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Tue, 04 Sep 2012 23:26:22 -0400

Thanks to everyone who has been following, I really appreciate it. You all are awesome. Feel free to ask questions about anything you want. It never hurts to get another persons view point on situations. Not only that, but sometimes, its easier talking to strangers about things that may be too hard to talk to friends or family. Continue to support & promote my advice blog and I will do the same to you. Feel free to hit up my email, hidden.presence@yahoo.com for more confidential matters.

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Wed, 22 Aug 2012 11:42:17 -0400

I have social problems. When I go back to school I'll be a sophomore. Last year I was so shy. I couldn't be myself and I didn't make any close friends. I was such a push over and my only friend who I can be myself around is my childhood friend from my neighborhood. Everytime we would hang out with friends that live near us I would act crazy and I could be myself. In school its impossible for me to do that. I'm afraid and I don't want to go back to school. What should I do?

Fri, 17 Aug 2012 02:05:59 -0400

# 27

Ok, so I thought you may have been shy but you said that your “afraid” of going back to school. Are you being bullied? Or is ONLY because of the shyness? Like you said, you have social problems and it sounds like you may have something called social anxiety disorder. I am not being mean or rude, but I have seen this before. You can google what that means, but basically its when a person doesn’t feel comfortable around other people and will go to great lengths to avoid them. Its natural that you are comfortable around people you already have a connection with but if you are afraid to go to school because of your shyness,that could be a problem. I think you should talk to a guardian, counselor or principal. Please don’t feel ashamed about talking to any of these people. Good luck hun.

this sounds pathetic, but i'm really really pale. like abnormally pale. idk, it like runs in my family or something. & everyone laughs at me for it, and says shit like "do you go out in the sun" "you ugly albino bitch". i know i shouldn't care what people think, and i never used to, but it's starting to get to me. i've tried tanning, everything, but i still stay pale. i feel so different to everyone else, i'm afraid to wear a bikini or even go to the beach. idk what to do about it.. xx

Wed, 15 Aug 2012 12:25:48 -0400

# 26
FYI!! THIS WILL BE LONG

Don’t feel that way hun. Don’t feel like an outcast simply because you are different. I am really dark skinned. I’m probably the same complexion with Kelly Rowland or darker. I used to get made fun of for being so dark that I hid myself and hated myself because of how I looked. But I grew up, and realized that I wouldn’t allow society to dictate how I should feel about myself. I learned to love myself and to gain confidence in my skin. Although our situations are two extremes of one another, I know how you feel. What you need to do is gain some confidence. Love yourself. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. All those people making fun of you have imperfections. Next time someone says that again to you, own it! If you say, “yes I’m pale so what??”, they can no longer hurt you. Take away their power they think they have over you. If possible avoid these negative thinking people and surround yourself with people who love you and uplift you. You can also use fake tans or spray tans if you want a bit more color though. If you still wanna talk, you can email me at hidden.presence@yahoo.com . :)

It’s your life! Not theirs. Always remember that.

Hello! ;) I just discovered this site. I think you are amazing! And It is so kind that you are taking time to give free advice to people. Its rare to find people like you in this world. Anyways,I was wondering if you give advice on emotions or feelings? I've gone through a big horror in my life. And of course it comes with problems and issues in life. I was wondering if there was any way if you could give me some advice on it? Maybe through email or something. Thank you! Xoxo Moonlight. ;D

Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:17:04 -0400

# 25

Hi hun *waves* Aww thank you for the kind words, and I’m sorry for replying late, been busy with school work. I give advice on every and anything my dear! Just remember, I’m no therapist :) You can email me at hidden.presence@yahoo.com for more personal matters.

I've never told anyone this but I just need to get it off my chest. I don't feel beautiful because I have scoliosis. It makes my waist shorter and wider, my right shoulder hunched, and causes pain everyday. I feel self conscious when I wear anything that reveals my shoulders. i'm sure not being thin upsets many girls, but being disproportionate, in my opinion, is far worse. To know that you can't do anything about it is reason for constant suppressed frustration. Thanks for listening

Sat, 28 Jul 2012 11:23:19 -0400

# 24

Wow, I can sympathize. I had a friend who had scoliosis & he said it was very painful. He eventually got surgery to get it fixed. So, there is something that you can do about it. I would recommend that- since you don’t want it to get any worse. Even if a loan has to be taken out, do it! As far as the dis-proportioness goes, someone’s body condition doesn’t (and shouldn’t ) determine their beauty. I know it sounds cliche but beauty isn’t about only looks, its about what’s on the inside as well. Try opening up about it. This is the 1st step. Tell your family and friends how you feel. This isn’t anything to be ashamed about. Nobody is perfect. Try and remember that. Good luck hun.

No, I said we did not have issues, we just felt more comfortable as friends with benefits, now that we're not together anymore we still talk, but I'm always the one who starts the conversation and when I don't and I tell myself not to talk to him and try to move on from him, he texts me and tells me he misses me and idk what to do.

Mon, 28 May 2012 23:06:06 -0400

# 23

oh, I’m sorry about that. Why not sit down and talk. It seems like you both miss each other and want to be together, then why not make it happen? The feelings are obviously there. I think closure would be the best bet. Get everything out not he table. Complete honesty, tell each other what you want from one another. Take it from there. Or, if both of you feel more comfortable as friends then why not stay that way??!? Don’t try and force something that isn’t there. Just because you love him and he loves you doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I understand that both of you care about each other, but if it isn’t working out, then there isn’t much you can do. As hard as I know it is, try and move on.

Okay, I dated this guy who's my best friend but now we are over, but It wasn't because we had issues, It was because we felt more comfortable as friends, but we weren't just best friends, we were like friends with benefits and we felt like when we got in the relationship all the feelings were fading so we decided to slipt, I told him I was afraid of losing him because he means a lot to me and he promissed me we'll be like we used to, but now I feel like we got worse. Idk what to do, I miss him.

Mon, 28 May 2012 22:47:39 -0400

# 22

Ok, you said that you are over because you had issues. It seems like you haven’t accepted that yet. If things got worse, theres really nothing you can do about it, unless there is more information you want to tell me. But from what I’m reading, it looks like its over. I think that’s something that happens when friends begin to date. it does change things. If you can, try and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Get some closure..If you want to be with him, let him now and ask how you both can fix it. If not, them I’m sorry, you may need to move on.

How to get a guy to like you? ... like.. i know you can't force a guy to like you.. but he's perfect... and i'm perfect for him, but he doesn't see that, and i do.. he's not like a normal guy, he's not into sex, or drugs. and he enjoys my math jokes. c:

Mon, 28 May 2012 22:34:54 -0400

# 21

You’re right, you can’t make a guy like you but you can make him notice you in hopes that he likes you. Smiling more, tailing to him more. Maybe starting a random conversation about math and taking it from there. When I had a crush on this guy, I flirted with him ALOT. He’s my ex now, but I used to make jokes (wack, corny, dry jokes..lol). I used to ask him questions, just to talk with him. Call him by “accident” and ask for help with my homework, study together. Might sound a tad bit desperate but these are things for him to notice you. Eventually they will pick up on the flirting and the hints. If all else fails, ask him out somewhere, like the movies or something.

It is my labia; it is too big, and I really dislike myself. I'm never going to have sex because I'm sorry, but guys are not going to like it. I can't even look at it myself - it physically brings me to tears; in a bikini, it creates a small bulge. I don't know what to do, I really don't - it's so hard to teach yourself to love something when you're so fond of hating it. Your friend that has it, is she happy with it? Has she ever shown it to a guy? I'm really stuck, thanks for the help (:

Mon, 28 May 2012 21:51:56 -0400

# 20

Please if you have a way for us to talk in private, lets do that. Like a twitter or an email, or instant message. Anything. I don’t think we should go back n forth on this. My twitter link is on the left. You can send me a message with your info.

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Sun, 27 May 2012 01:58:26 -0400

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somepinkfluffy-dinosaur:

‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!

It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…

FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

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POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

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FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.

Very good tips!

I really hate myself downstairs like so, so, much. I know it's different to everybody else's, because it looks different, it's my lips. I don't wanna go on holiday, and I don't want to wear a bikini. I can't afford surgery and I really do hate myself. What can I do?

Sat, 26 May 2012 14:05:58 -0400

# 19

Ok, I have a friend who has the same “problem”. Are you saying that your labia protrudes a little bit? To be real, it isn’t a problem. Don’t let society make you insecure. Just like men have different penis sizes, women have different labia sizes and breast sizes. Penis range from small to large, thick to thin and the same with breasts and labia. Everyone is different. How would you know “everyone else’s” is different?? Have you seen their vagina’s before?? Just because the porn stars have “perfect bodies” doesn’t mean yours isn’t perfect. In case you didn’t know a lot of those porn stars have had work done on themselves. Please don’t fall into the hype. Love yourself. There are things I don’t like about myself either, like I hate my feet, I’m flat footed (no arch) and they’re so long; almost like fingers lol. But the key is finding that man (or woman) who loves you for who you are. But listen to be real, a vagina is a vagina. No body will care..LOL Good luck hun!

I met a guy this semester. We've been talking through texts and on campus. I don't text everyday but when I have time. I usually text first, but he always texts back. Before the semester ended, I talked to him over the phone and asked what he was during over the summer. He asked if I would be around, I said yes, and we would talk about it after finals were over. We still text. Should I wait for him to ask me to hang out as friends or should I ask him? We have a lot of the same interests.

Sat, 26 May 2012 14:00:44 -0400

# 18

Its crazy because i went through the EXACT same thing with someone i liked. I don’t want to discourage you, but I eventually just gave up. smh But, the mistake I made, in my opinion, was not take initiative. You know? I thought as the woman, you need to let him text you and be the “man”. But I realized that not all men are the same and some guys are just shy. So he never texted/called me first, etc, even though he and I would make plans to hang out during spring and summer break. So don’t do what I do! Ask him out! If you’re not that bold, just get a whole group of your friends together, invite him and do something fun. Like bowling, the park, etc. Things that friends do. Then eventually the two of you can hang out alone. It seems like he at least has some interest in you since he asked if you would be around. Good luck.

People keep calling fat what do i do

Mon, 21 May 2012 17:38:54 -0400

# 17

Do you care that these people are calling you names? I know its hurtful but try your best to ignore them. No one is perfect. All these people who call you fat have their own insecurities and they feel the need to point yours out so no one will notice theirs. I don’t know how old you are so I can’t really give the best advice, but just try to love yourself and never let anyone take away your happiness! Why would you give them that much power over you? Just love yourself.

Okay so... I'm not exactly how to word this... but I'm feeling like my friends don't want to hang out with me? is it because i'm boring? I just, idk, i'm feeling soooo alone, and like, i have nothing to do with my life, and i seriously don't even have hope for the future... like, i don't think anything is gonna get better, with the economy, the youth... it's like.. scary.

Wed, 16 May 2012 09:22:24 -0400

# 16

Well why do you feel like they don’t want to hang out with you? Do they ignore you? Do they invite you places? Do they call you? etc. Friends are supposed to like hanging out with you. Do you think you’re boring? Idk you to answer that question. I know everyone gets lonely at some point and maybe talking to them will get all these answers for you. Friends come and go. But listen, you have to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with anyone else. I know its cliche, but its true. I think you should sit down and take a look at what you want from your life. Stay in school and you’ll be fine. Its YOUR life! take control of it. Feel free to ask again anytime.

Hi, I'm the girl from yahoo! I just wanted to say thank you for the advice and wanted to say about the whole hand down his pants thing.. Basically I told him I hate when boys touch there privates all the time and that's how it started LOL. But thank you for the advice again<3

Tue, 15 May 2012 00:14:32 -0400

# 15

awwwww LOL no problem hun! Feel free 2 visit anytime! :D

Have you ever felt inside of you that feeling of "this is who i am." but in reality, your life is nothing how you feel yourself should be? Does that make sense? :\

Tue, 08 May 2012 20:45:23 -0400

# 14

Yes! I have, well I used to. I’ve really never talked about that with anyone, its been a personal feeling but I think it’s normal. Kind of like females who dream about their wedding day and when it finally comes, it isn’t how they expected it would be. But at the end of the day, you have to be proud of who you are. Life isn’t perfect, but be content. Accept the things you cannot change. And if you change them, what are you waiting for?

This may sound weird but, I don't know how to kiss someone, and my boyfriend is coming over today so..I kinda wanna know, how do I make him know i wanna kiss him? and what if he tries to french me?

Fri, 04 May 2012 16:18:06 -0400

# 13

Well if just saying, “babe kiss me” doesn’t work, lol, you can use your body language. 1) You can look at him a certain way, Tyra calls it “smizing” (smiling with your eyes). 2) You can sit close to him and move in towards him. Cuddling,etc 3) You can tell him you want to tell him a secret. Then you could tell him to bring his ear to you, then when he moves in, kiss him. 4) You can also tell him to kiss you on the cheek, then move your face when he does, so that he touches your lips. If he tries to french kiss you, I promise you, it will be awkward, lol, but just go with the flow. He’s your boyfriend, and he is suppose to teach you. Good luck hun, let me know how it goes!! HAHA

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Sun, 29 Apr 2012 23:11:58 -0400