Q:I have social problems. When I go back to school I'll be a sophomore. Last year I was so shy. I couldn't be myself and I didn't make any close friends. I was such a push over and my only friend who I can be myself around is my childhood friend from my neighborhood. Everytime we would hang out with friends that live near us I would act crazy and I could be myself. In school its impossible for me to do that. I'm afraid and I don't want to go back to school. What should I do?
Ok, so I thought you may have been shy but you said that your “afraid” of going back to school. Are you being bullied? Or is ONLY because of the shyness? Like you said, you have social problems and it sounds like you may have something called social anxiety disorder. I am not being mean or rude, but I have seen this before. You can google what that means, but basically its when a person doesn’t feel comfortable around other people and will go to great lengths to avoid them. Its natural that you are comfortable around people you already have a connection with but if you are afraid to go to school because of your shyness,that could be a problem. I think you should talk to a guardian, counselor or principal. Please don’t feel ashamed about talking to any of these people. Good luck hun.
Q:this sounds pathetic, but i'm really really pale. like abnormally pale. idk, it like runs in my family or something. & everyone laughs at me for it, and says shit like "do you go out in the sun" "you ugly albino bitch". i know i shouldn't care what people think, and i never used to, but it's starting to get to me. i've tried tanning, everything, but i still stay pale. i feel so different to everyone else, i'm afraid to wear a bikini or even go to the beach. idk what to do about it.. xx
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Don’t feel that way hun. Don’t feel like an outcast simply because you are different. I am really dark skinned. I’m probably the same complexion with Kelly Rowland or darker. I used to get made fun of for being so dark that I hid myself and hated myself because of how I looked. But I grew up, and realized that I wouldn’t allow society to dictate how I should feel about myself. I learned to love myself and to gain confidence in my skin. Although our situations are two extremes of one another, I know how you feel. What you need to do is gain some confidence. Love yourself. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. All those people making fun of you have imperfections. Next time someone says that again to you, own it! If you say, “yes I’m pale so what??”, they can no longer hurt you. Take away their power they think they have over you. If possible avoid these negative thinking people and surround yourself with people who love you and uplift you. You can also use fake tans or spray tans if you want a bit more color though. If you still wanna talk, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org . :)
It’s your life! Not theirs. Always remember that.
Q:Hello! ;) I just discovered this site. I think you are amazing! And It is so kind that you are taking time to give free advice to people. Its rare to find people like you in this world. Anyways,I was wondering if you give advice on emotions or feelings? I've gone through a big horror in my life. And of course it comes with problems and issues in life. I was wondering if there was any way if you could give me some advice on it? Maybe through email or something. Thank you! Xoxo Moonlight. ;D
Hi hun *waves* Aww thank you for the kind words, and I’m sorry for replying late, been busy with school work. I give advice on every and anything my dear! Just remember, I’m no therapist :) You can email me at email@example.com for more personal matters.
Q:I've never told anyone this but I just need to get it off my chest. I don't feel beautiful because I have scoliosis. It makes my waist shorter and wider, my right shoulder hunched, and causes pain everyday. I feel self conscious when I wear anything that reveals my shoulders. i'm sure not being thin upsets many girls, but being disproportionate, in my opinion, is far worse. To know that you can't do anything about it is reason for constant suppressed frustration. Thanks for listening
Wow, I can sympathize. I had a friend who had scoliosis & he said it was very painful. He eventually got surgery to get it fixed. So, there is something that you can do about it. I would recommend that- since you don’t want it to get any worse. Even if a loan has to be taken out, do it! As far as the dis-proportioness goes, someone’s body condition doesn’t (and shouldn’t ) determine their beauty. I know it sounds cliche but beauty isn’t about only looks, its about what’s on the inside as well. Try opening up about it. This is the 1st step. Tell your family and friends how you feel. This isn’t anything to be ashamed about. Nobody is perfect. Try and remember that. Good luck hun.
Q:No, I said we did not have issues, we just felt more comfortable as friends with benefits, now that we're not together anymore we still talk, but I'm always the one who starts the conversation and when I don't and I tell myself not to talk to him and try to move on from him, he texts me and tells me he misses me and idk what to do.
oh, I’m sorry about that. Why not sit down and talk. It seems like you both miss each other and want to be together, then why not make it happen? The feelings are obviously there. I think closure would be the best bet. Get everything out not he table. Complete honesty, tell each other what you want from one another. Take it from there. Or, if both of you feel more comfortable as friends then why not stay that way??!? Don’t try and force something that isn’t there. Just because you love him and he loves you doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I understand that both of you care about each other, but if it isn’t working out, then there isn’t much you can do. As hard as I know it is, try and move on.
Q:Okay, I dated this guy who's my best friend but now we are over, but It wasn't because we had issues, It was because we felt more comfortable as friends, but we weren't just best friends, we were like friends with benefits and we felt like when we got in the relationship all the feelings were fading so we decided to slipt, I told him I was afraid of losing him because he means a lot to me and he promissed me we'll be like we used to, but now I feel like we got worse. Idk what to do, I miss him.
Ok, you said that you are over because you had issues. It seems like you haven’t accepted that yet. If things got worse, theres really nothing you can do about it, unless there is more information you want to tell me. But from what I’m reading, it looks like its over. I think that’s something that happens when friends begin to date. it does change things. If you can, try and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Get some closure..If you want to be with him, let him now and ask how you both can fix it. If not, them I’m sorry, you may need to move on.
Q:How to get a guy to like you? ... like.. i know you can't force a guy to like you.. but he's perfect... and i'm perfect for him, but he doesn't see that, and i do.. he's not like a normal guy, he's not into sex, or drugs. and he enjoys my math jokes. c:
You’re right, you can’t make a guy like you but you can make him notice you in hopes that he likes you. Smiling more, tailing to him more. Maybe starting a random conversation about math and taking it from there. When I had a crush on this guy, I flirted with him ALOT. He’s my ex now, but I used to make jokes (wack, corny, dry jokes..lol). I used to ask him questions, just to talk with him. Call him by “accident” and ask for help with my homework, study together. Might sound a tad bit desperate but these are things for him to notice you. Eventually they will pick up on the flirting and the hints. If all else fails, ask him out somewhere, like the movies or something.