surfacing-to-breathe asked: I've never told anyone this but I just need to get it off my chest. I don't feel beautiful because I have scoliosis. It makes my waist shorter and wider, my right shoulder hunched, and causes pain everyday. I feel self conscious when I wear anything that reveals my shoulders. i'm sure not being thin upsets many girls, but being disproportionate, in my opinion, is far worse. To know that you can't do anything about it is reason for constant suppressed frustration. Thanks for listening
Wow, I can sympathize. I had a friend who had scoliosis & he said it was very painful. He eventually got surgery to get it fixed. So, there is something that you can do about it. I would recommend that- since you don’t want it to get any worse. Even if a loan has to be taken out, do it! As far as the dis-proportioness goes, someone’s body condition doesn’t (and shouldn’t ) determine their beauty. I know it sounds cliche but beauty isn’t about only looks, its about what’s on the inside as well. Try opening up about it. This is the 1st step. Tell your family and friends how you feel. This isn’t anything to be ashamed about. Nobody is perfect. Try and remember that. Good luck hun.
Anonymous asked: No, I said we did not have issues, we just felt more comfortable as friends with benefits, now that we're not together anymore we still talk, but I'm always the one who starts the conversation and when I don't and I tell myself not to talk to him and try to move on from him, he texts me and tells me he misses me and idk what to do.
oh, I’m sorry about that. Why not sit down and talk. It seems like you both miss each other and want to be together, then why not make it happen? The feelings are obviously there. I think closure would be the best bet. Get everything out not he table. Complete honesty, tell each other what you want from one another. Take it from there. Or, if both of you feel more comfortable as friends then why not stay that way??!? Don’t try and force something that isn’t there. Just because you love him and he loves you doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I understand that both of you care about each other, but if it isn’t working out, then there isn’t much you can do. As hard as I know it is, try and move on.
Anonymous asked: Okay, I dated this guy who's my best friend but now we are over, but It wasn't because we had issues, It was because we felt more comfortable as friends, but we weren't just best friends, we were like friends with benefits and we felt like when we got in the relationship all the feelings were fading so we decided to slipt, I told him I was afraid of losing him because he means a lot to me and he promissed me we'll be like we used to, but now I feel like we got worse. Idk what to do, I miss him.
Ok, you said that you are over because you had issues. It seems like you haven’t accepted that yet. If things got worse, theres really nothing you can do about it, unless there is more information you want to tell me. But from what I’m reading, it looks like its over. I think that’s something that happens when friends begin to date. it does change things. If you can, try and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Get some closure..If you want to be with him, let him now and ask how you both can fix it. If not, them I’m sorry, you may need to move on.
trippytipsyhippie asked: How to get a guy to like you? ... like.. i know you can't force a guy to like you.. but he's perfect... and i'm perfect for him, but he doesn't see that, and i do.. he's not like a normal guy, he's not into sex, or drugs. and he enjoys my math jokes. c:
You’re right, you can’t make a guy like you but you can make him notice you in hopes that he likes you. Smiling more, tailing to him more. Maybe starting a random conversation about math and taking it from there. When I had a crush on this guy, I flirted with him ALOT. He’s my ex now, but I used to make jokes (wack, corny, dry jokes..lol). I used to ask him questions, just to talk with him. Call him by “accident” and ask for help with my homework, study together. Might sound a tad bit desperate but these are things for him to notice you. Eventually they will pick up on the flirting and the hints. If all else fails, ask him out somewhere, like the movies or something.
Anonymous asked: It is my labia; it is too big, and I really dislike myself. I'm never going to have sex because I'm sorry, but guys are not going to like it. I can't even look at it myself - it physically brings me to tears; in a bikini, it creates a small bulge. I don't know what to do, I really don't - it's so hard to teach yourself to love something when you're so fond of hating it. Your friend that has it, is she happy with it? Has she ever shown it to a guy? I'm really stuck, thanks for the help (:
Please if you have a way for us to talk in private, lets do that. Like a twitter or an email, or instant message. Anything. I don’t think we should go back n forth on this. My twitter link is on the left. You can send me a message with your info.
”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. it may save a life.) Reblog this!
It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:
1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6] Number three is public restrooms.
7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:
1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.
6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.
2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)
6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).
7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.
Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.
DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT NOT REBLOGGING THIS! IT COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.
Very good tips!