So I have been in a VERY serious relationship for almost 6 years now with a guy who I was sure was my "Soul Mate." Around 4 months ago, I was playing this game on my phone and met this guy (totally weird I know) and we decided to become friends because we got along really well and could hold a really good conversation with eachother. We ended up falling in love and decided to date! Now I am stuck with wanting to be with him but I am in this other relationship that I am not so sure about anymore.
Wow, this is such an interesting and juicy situation! lol First of all, I am going to assume that you loved your boyfriend of six years since you described it as a “VERY serious relationship”. However, you go on to say that you met a guy and fell in love with him. This is considered cheating, if what you are telling me is that you are dating both guys at the same time. Obviously you aren’t fully committed to the first relationship or you wouldn’t have continued the phone conversation. You already made your decision when you fell in love with the other guy. Go with your heart!
just for the labia person, if you can pass on a message, there are guys who prefer a big labia, so she should not stress so much because it could be a big turn on for some/many and a smaller labia could be a big turn off, truly
Thanks for your advice! Sometimes when we are used to seeing or hearing about the status quo, we get so caught up on how we perceive things are suppose to be. Everyone is different. One man’s garbage is another man’s treasure. I try to tell myself that every single day.
Hi~~~First I want to say thank you for making such a blog. I have a problem where I feel like the internet is corrupting me. What do you suggest I should do?
No problem, this is something I enjoy doing. Ok, I’m not sure what you mean by “corrupting you”, but I suggest you sit down and find out what exactly is being corrupted. In my opinion, nothing can corrupt you unless you allow it to. Everyone in the world is exposed to the internet, to music, to movies, to entertainment but we know who we are. Sit down and do some soul searching and find out what is being corrupted exactly.
Ok, so I have problems with my best guy friend. In the summer, he told me he liked me more than a friend, but he said it like online when I was texting him. So, I didn't really know if he really meant it. I did tell him I liked him too, and then about a day later he says he doesn't like me. I don't know if that was just him denying it or him being serious.. later on we went bowling with a bunch of friends and he hugged me, but since then he hasn't been talking to me and has been acting awkward??
It seems like he is playing games with you. Either that, or he isn’t sure of his feelings about you yet. When a guy likes you, he WANTS to talk to you and be around you. So if he is ignoring you or isnt talking to you anymore, that could be a big sign that he doesn’t feel the same way. But neither of us here are psychic. Talk to him and ask him how he feels about you.
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I have social problems. When I go back to school I'll be a sophomore. Last year I was so shy. I couldn't be myself and I didn't make any close friends. I was such a push over and my only friend who I can be myself around is my childhood friend from my neighborhood. Everytime we would hang out with friends that live near us I would act crazy and I could be myself. In school its impossible for me to do that. I'm afraid and I don't want to go back to school. What should I do?
Ok, so I thought you may have been shy but you said that your “afraid” of going back to school. Are you being bullied? Or is ONLY because of the shyness? Like you said, you have social problems and it sounds like you may have something called social anxiety disorder. I am not being mean or rude, but I have seen this before. You can google what that means, but basically its when a person doesn’t feel comfortable around other people and will go to great lengths to avoid them. Its natural that you are comfortable around people you already have a connection with but if you are afraid to go to school because of your shyness,that could be a problem. I think you should talk to a guardian, counselor or principal. Please don’t feel ashamed about talking to any of these people. Good luck hun.
this sounds pathetic, but i'm really really pale. like abnormally pale. idk, it like runs in my family or something. & everyone laughs at me for it, and says shit like "do you go out in the sun" "you ugly albino bitch". i know i shouldn't care what people think, and i never used to, but it's starting to get to me. i've tried tanning, everything, but i still stay pale. i feel so different to everyone else, i'm afraid to wear a bikini or even go to the beach. idk what to do about it.. xx
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Don’t feel that way hun. Don’t feel like an outcast simply because you are different. I am really dark skinned. I’m probably the same complexion with Kelly Rowland or darker. I used to get made fun of for being so dark that I hid myself and hated myself because of how I looked. But I grew up, and realized that I wouldn’t allow society to dictate how I should feel about myself. I learned to love myself and to gain confidence in my skin. Although our situations are two extremes of one another, I know how you feel. What you need to do is gain some confidence. Love yourself. No one is perfect. Everyone has flaws. All those people making fun of you have imperfections. Next time someone says that again to you, own it! If you say, “yes I’m pale so what??”, they can no longer hurt you. Take away their power they think they have over you. If possible avoid these negative thinking people and surround yourself with people who love you and uplift you. You can also use fake tans or spray tans if you want a bit more color though. If you still wanna talk, you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org . :)
Hello! ;) I just discovered this site. I think you are amazing! And It is so kind that you are taking time to give free advice to people. Its rare to find people like you in this world. Anyways,I was wondering if you give advice on emotions or feelings? I've gone through a big horror in my life. And of course it comes with problems and issues in life. I was wondering if there was any way if you could give me some advice on it? Maybe through email or something. Thank you! Xoxo Moonlight. ;D
Hi hun *waves* Aww thank you for the kind words, and I’m sorry for replying late, been busy with school work. I give advice on every and anything my dear! Just remember, I’m no therapist :) You can email me at email@example.com for more personal matters.
I've never told anyone this but I just need to get it off my chest. I don't feel beautiful because I have scoliosis. It makes my waist shorter and wider, my right shoulder hunched, and causes pain everyday. I feel self conscious when I wear anything that reveals my shoulders. i'm sure not being thin upsets many girls, but being disproportionate, in my opinion, is far worse. To know that you can't do anything about it is reason for constant suppressed frustration. Thanks for listening
Wow, I can sympathize. I had a friend who had scoliosis & he said it was very painful. He eventually got surgery to get it fixed. So, there is something that you can do about it. I would recommend that- since you don’t want it to get any worse. Even if a loan has to be taken out, do it! As far as the dis-proportioness goes, someone’s body condition doesn’t (and shouldn’t ) determine their beauty. I know it sounds cliche but beauty isn’t about only looks, its about what’s on the inside as well. Try opening up about it. This is the 1st step. Tell your family and friends how you feel. This isn’t anything to be ashamed about. Nobody is perfect. Try and remember that. Good luck hun.
No, I said we did not have issues, we just felt more comfortable as friends with benefits, now that we're not together anymore we still talk, but I'm always the one who starts the conversation and when I don't and I tell myself not to talk to him and try to move on from him, he texts me and tells me he misses me and idk what to do.
oh, I’m sorry about that. Why not sit down and talk. It seems like you both miss each other and want to be together, then why not make it happen? The feelings are obviously there. I think closure would be the best bet. Get everything out not he table. Complete honesty, tell each other what you want from one another. Take it from there. Or, if both of you feel more comfortable as friends then why not stay that way??!? Don’t try and force something that isn’t there. Just because you love him and he loves you doesn’t mean you’re meant to be together. I understand that both of you care about each other, but if it isn’t working out, then there isn’t much you can do. As hard as I know it is, try and move on.
Okay, I dated this guy who's my best friend but now we are over, but It wasn't because we had issues, It was because we felt more comfortable as friends, but we weren't just best friends, we were like friends with benefits and we felt like when we got in the relationship all the feelings were fading so we decided to slipt, I told him I was afraid of losing him because he means a lot to me and he promissed me we'll be like we used to, but now I feel like we got worse. Idk what to do, I miss him.
Ok, you said that you are over because you had issues. It seems like you haven’t accepted that yet. If things got worse, theres really nothing you can do about it, unless there is more information you want to tell me. But from what I’m reading, it looks like its over. I think that’s something that happens when friends begin to date. it does change things. If you can, try and talk to him and let him know how you feel. Get some closure..If you want to be with him, let him now and ask how you both can fix it. If not, them I’m sorry, you may need to move on.
How to get a guy to like you? ... like.. i know you can't force a guy to like you.. but he's perfect... and i'm perfect for him, but he doesn't see that, and i do.. he's not like a normal guy, he's not into sex, or drugs. and he enjoys my math jokes. c:
You’re right, you can’t make a guy like you but you can make him notice you in hopes that he likes you. Smiling more, tailing to him more. Maybe starting a random conversation about math and taking it from there. When I had a crush on this guy, I flirted with him ALOT. He’s my ex now, but I used to make jokes (wack, corny, dry jokes..lol). I used to ask him questions, just to talk with him. Call him by “accident” and ask for help with my homework, study together. Might sound a tad bit desperate but these are things for him to notice you. Eventually they will pick up on the flirting and the hints. If all else fails, ask him out somewhere, like the movies or something.
It is my labia; it is too big, and I really dislike myself. I'm never going to have sex because I'm sorry, but guys are not going to like it. I can't even look at it myself - it physically brings me to tears; in a bikini, it creates a small bulge. I don't know what to do, I really don't - it's so hard to teach yourself to love something when you're so fond of hating it. Your friend that has it, is she happy with it? Has she ever shown it to a guy? I'm really stuck, thanks for the help (:
Please if you have a way for us to talk in private, lets do that. Like a twitter or an email, or instant message. Anything. I don’t think we should go back n forth on this. My twitter link is on the left. You can send me a message with your info.
I really hate myself downstairs like so, so, much. I know it's different to everybody else's, because it looks different, it's my lips. I don't wanna go on holiday, and I don't want to wear a bikini. I can't afford surgery and I really do hate myself. What can I do?
Ok, I have a friend who has the same “problem”. Are you saying that your labia protrudes a little bit? To be real, it isn’t a problem. Don’t let society make you insecure. Just like men have different penis sizes, women have different labia sizes and breast sizes. Penis range from small to large, thick to thin and the same with breasts and labia. Everyone is different. How would you know “everyone else’s” is different?? Have you seen their vagina’s before?? Just because the porn stars have “perfect bodies” doesn’t mean yours isn’t perfect. In case you didn’t know a lot of those porn stars have had work done on themselves. Please don’t fall into the hype. Love yourself. There are things I don’t like about myself either, like I hate my feet, I’m flat footed (no arch) and they’re so long; almost like fingers lol. But the key is finding that man (or woman) who loves you for who you are. But listen to be real, a vagina is a vagina. No body will care..LOL Good luck hun!
I met a guy this semester. We've been talking through texts and on campus. I don't text everyday but when I have time. I usually text first, but he always texts back. Before the semester ended, I talked to him over the phone and asked what he was during over the summer. He asked if I would be around, I said yes, and we would talk about it after finals were over. We still text. Should I wait for him to ask me to hang out as friends or should I ask him? We have a lot of the same interests.
Its crazy because i went through the EXACT same thing with someone i liked. I don’t want to discourage you, but I eventually just gave up. smh But, the mistake I made, in my opinion, was not take initiative. You know? I thought as the woman, you need to let him text you and be the “man”. But I realized that not all men are the same and some guys are just shy. So he never texted/called me first, etc, even though he and I would make plans to hang out during spring and summer break. So don’t do what I do! Ask him out! If you’re not that bold, just get a whole group of your friends together, invite him and do something fun. Like bowling, the park, etc. Things that friends do. Then eventually the two of you can hang out alone. It seems like he at least has some interest in you since he asked if you would be around. Good luck.
Do you care that these people are calling you names? I know its hurtful but try your best to ignore them. No one is perfect. All these people who call you fat have their own insecurities and they feel the need to point yours out so no one will notice theirs. I don’t know how old you are so I can’t really give the best advice, but just try to love yourself and never let anyone take away your happiness! Why would you give them that much power over you? Just love yourself.
Okay so... I'm not exactly how to word this... but I'm feeling like my friends don't want to hang out with me? is it because i'm boring? I just, idk, i'm feeling soooo alone, and like, i have nothing to do with my life, and i seriously don't even have hope for the future... like, i don't think anything is gonna get better, with the economy, the youth... it's like.. scary.
Well why do you feel like they don’t want to hang out with you? Do they ignore you? Do they invite you places? Do they call you? etc. Friends are supposed to like hanging out with you. Do you think you’re boring? Idk you to answer that question. I know everyone gets lonely at some point and maybe talking to them will get all these answers for you. Friends come and go. But listen, you have to be happy with yourself first before you can be happy with anyone else. I know its cliche, but its true. I think you should sit down and take a look at what you want from your life. Stay in school and you’ll be fine. Its YOUR life! take control of it. Feel free to ask again anytime.
Hi, I'm the girl from yahoo! I just wanted to say thank you for the advice and wanted to say about the whole hand down his pants thing.. Basically I told him I hate when boys touch there privates all the time and that's how it started LOL. But thank you for the advice again<3
awwwww LOL no problem hun! Feel free 2 visit anytime! :D
Have you ever felt inside of you that feeling of "this is who i am." but in reality, your life is nothing how you feel yourself should be? Does that make sense? :\
Yes! I have, well I used to. I’ve really never talked about that with anyone, its been a personal feeling but I think it’s normal. Kind of like females who dream about their wedding day and when it finally comes, it isn’t how they expected it would be. But at the end of the day, you have to be proud of who you are. Life isn’t perfect, but be content. Accept the things you cannot change. And if you change them, what are you waiting for?
This may sound weird but, I don't know how to kiss someone, and my boyfriend is coming over today so..I kinda wanna know, how do I make him know i wanna kiss him? and what if he tries to french me?
Well if just saying, “babe kiss me” doesn’t work, lol, you can use your body language. 1) You can look at him a certain way, Tyra calls it “smizing” (smiling with your eyes). 2) You can sit close to him and move in towards him. Cuddling,etc 3) You can tell him you want to tell him a secret. Then you could tell him to bring his ear to you, then when he moves in, kiss him. 4) You can also tell him to kiss you on the cheek, then move your face when he does, so that he touches your lips. If he tries to french kiss you, I promise you, it will be awkward, lol, but just go with the flow. He’s your boyfriend, and he is suppose to teach you. Good luck hun, let me know how it goes!! HAHA
i thought you could help me i really need help, i don't know what to write on my tumblr page and i don't know what my html should be! plz help i will get popular!
Well you should write whatever you are interested in. I couldn’t possibly know what that is, everyone is different. What do you want people on tumblr to know about you? Some people only blog about pictures or fashion or art or music, etc. Maybe you could do that. By html, i assume you mean url? Html are codes for tunblr which I know nothing about. But the url name is also up to you. Name it something relative to your blog. Well , LOL, I’ve only been on tumblr for about 3 days now. So I don’t know how to get “popular”. What I can say is that you should interact more. Talk to people, reblog, reblog, reblog. This may sound cliche but just be yourself, people will naturally be attracted. But like i said im not popular on tumblr. You might have better luck asking someone with millions of followers how they got popular. Good luck!
Hi. I am a 26 year old female in med school. My bf of 4 years recently broke off our relationship, I believe it was mostly because he felt a intimidated. We had our differences, but I loved him and imagined my life with him. I was a wreck for months after this, but somehow managed to start looking again. Maybe this wasn't the best idea? I met a guy who just seemed to good to be true, and we got along great. Then he went cold. I hate this whole dating business. How can I not get hurt so easily?
Hi hun. With dating, sometimes it can be so annoying getting to know someone new, but my advice is to try not to get attached. Try getting to know who he is before you commit. His personality with you and around other people, his character etc. Also know what YOU want from a man and don’t settle for less than you deserve. When dating a guy, I like to think of them as just friends. I never put my emotions into it until I know that they are serious about me, and want to have a real relationship. At the end of the day, the only way for you to not get so hurt easily is to get out of the “dating business” as you call it. Good luck :)
This is my first realshionship, and i feel like im already screwing it up with my boyfriend, we never see each other since hes in highschool and im in middle school so what should I do!?
Well I would love to know more information because you’re not saying much. But if you feel the reason why you are screwing up is because you never see each other, then try and make time for him and vice versa. Im sure you guys could try and meet up once a week like on a weekend. Or for an hour on a weekday. It’s 2012, you can skype, oovoo or facetime!! lol Be creative, video chatting is great. Talking on the phone helps too. But being that this is your 1st relationship, don’t rush into it. Just relax.
I've liked my best guy friend for a long time, e are talking like 10 years. I have dropped hints here and there and he has said he likes me before, but h has also had several girlfriends. What sould I do? I want to ask him out but I don't want to ruin our friendship.
Well the fact that he has had several girlfriends doesn’t mean anything. You two weren’t dating, so he is entitled to that. Right? You liked him for 10 years? That’s a long time to have a crush on someone!!!! Dropping hints “here & there” doesn’t mean that he is “picking them up”. Get it? I mean, if he liked you, or at least picked up on a hint, he would have dated you and not those other women. You can do two things. Either A, talk to him about it and let him know how you feel. Ask him if he feels the same way. Yes you may be jeopardizing your friendship, but you never know the future. He might want what you want. or B, you can keep quiet. Try and get over it and move on. Good luck! :)
I was talking to this guy and he really likes me. I thought i might have liked him for a day or two. He's really sweet and never had a girlfriend. I decided that im attracted to him in that way. I told him and he seemed to understand but not things are awkward in school between us. Idk what to do.
Maybe he’s shy. Like you said, he never had a girlfriend. Maybe he doesn’t know what the “next step” is. You know? Try talking to him. Ask him where the both of you stand. Does he really like you and does he want to start dating…etc. Just ask him to be honest and tell you how he feels. If you don’t say anything, things will contine to be awkward. Good luck!
Sometimes I feel like my best friend talks about me behind my back. We argue a lot & she goes to her other friends I guess to vent. They tell me she says things like I dont wanna be her firned anymore blah blah blah. We've been friends for like 8 months now and I dont want to lose her. But I dont really trust her now.What do I do?
Ok, so you mentioned a lot of negative things. What has she done for you in your life for the positive? She talks behind your back? Disloyalty. You don’t trust her? So what’s the point of being friends. I understand you like her as a friend but if she is saying she doesn’t want to be your friend move on. Everyone doesn’t have to be your friend. That’s something I learned a long time ago.
Well I think no matter the type of girl or race, etc, I believe all girls just want a guy who will be honest with them. I mean yes, how you look plays in too, but for the most part, girls want a guy who is honest, trustworthy and loyal because without those things your friendship/relationship is nothing.
So im goin 2 prom in may n i lyk dis guy. he told me he lyks me too n he wants to go out but but he hasn't asked me to prom yet? shud i ask him? or wait for him to ask me?
You don’t know if he will still ask you in the future. You can pick up on his signs, or ask little questions here and there. You can ask, “do you have a date to prom yet?” or “have you asked someone to prom yet?”, etc. You’ll know where to go from there. But, this is 2012, if you like a guy go for it. Most guys like girls who aren’t afraid to go up to them first. If you wait, you may be waiting for years girl. LOL
I'm easily walked over/ am a push over. For example, I can't say no to anyone. How do I stay kind to people and still say no?
I can def relate to this. I used to always do favors for people, until I recently started saying no. It was hard, but def worth it. Is this an issue with confidence? With me it was. It def feels good to help people, but sometimes people take advantage and thats no bueno. I know its hard, but try to be more assertive and confident. Stand up for YOU. If you don’t, who else will? Don’t be afraid to tell people how you feel. I’m not saying be rude and disgusting with it, but speak gently and calmly. :)
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